What do I talk about on a first date?
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First and foremost, ask questions. Make sure you’re asking follow-ups questions and being engaged, actually caring about the conversation. I mean hopefully you do actually care about the conversation. Try as best as you can to stay present in the current conversation. If all you talk about is a few topics and you don’t learn everything you wanted to, that’s a good thing! You’ve got a lot more time to get to know a lot more. That should be exciting and really affirming. That means you want to go out again.
Don’t feel like you have to have answers to questions about her and know every single thing about her by the end of the date. It’s most likely only an hour and a half to two hours, it would literally be impossible to get to know everything. And it’s most certainly not an interview, so it shouldn’t feel like one! Most likely, the conversation will flow from just a few specific topics, so let it! Here are some conversation starters to use, pick two to three to have in your back pocket so you’re not overwhelmed with having to remember too many and let it flow from there:
What do you do for work, do you like your job, your boss, coworkers
Where do you live- with roommates?How do you know them?
Favorite restaurant you’ve been to recently- Favorite food? Type of food?
Tv shows you’re watching
Books you’re reading
Where are you from
Do you have siblings
What would you bring on a deserted island
Let the conversation direct itself, you don’t have to hit any points or check any boxes- you’re not gonna learn everything in 2 hours or less
See if you wanna go out again- is it a good vibe, attraction, and good energy
26 minutes of first date advice- Guyset
My favorites (and the three I choose) are:
What do you do for work?
What’s your favorite restaurant/ favorite type of food?
What TV shows do you watch?
What’s your favorite thing to ask on a first date/ your best conversation starter?
More importantly to remember, this is just a first date! Try as best as you can to take the pressure off of it. The whole point is to get an opportunity to see if you like this person, if you vibe, if you want to see them again. That’s really it. It matters just as much if you like them as if they like you, so remember that.
And have fun. Or try to have fun.
I know it’s nerve-wracking. I’ve never gone on a first date that I wasn’t at least a little nervous or anxious about. Try your best to remember all the things you just read, it’s just a vibe check, a way to meet someone new.
You aren’t going to like everyone you meet and that’s alright but go in with an open and excited mindset about this. It’s supposed to be a good time.
And if it’s not, you’ll leave with a story, a “what not to do next time”, a “what I probably shouldn’t mention on a first date”, or a lesson or two, and call or text your friend to talk about it.
I also have an episode of my podcast called 26 Minutes of First Date Advice where I go into everything.
Let me know how it goes or if you have any questions. DM me on Instagram @theguyset
