Welcome to Guyset
Thanks for being here! I started Guyset with many things in mind but namely because I couldn’t find a place to find answers to the questions I’ve had for the past few years. I noticed that there were so many places and spaces for girls to hear recommendations, advice, and perspectives on the topics they are wondering about, but really none for guys. I started this with guys in 20s in mind because well, that’s me but I’ve quickly realized that there are more age ranges included in this feeling. It’s a simple solution to my problem really, create a place to provide answers, or as close to answers as possible, with recommendations, advice, tools, and guides to all the things guys are wondering about. When I first thought of this idea in the summer of my junior year of college, it was my first time going out to a bar and I had no idea what to wear. I looked everywhere online for advice on this and couldn’t find a place that had an answer to that question alongside everything else I was wondering while living on my own for the first time.
What do I do about this razor burn on my neck? Where should I go on a first date? What should I wear on a first date? What type of questions should I ask on a first date? How do I cure this hangover? What should I text that girl? Should I double text her? Why did she ghost me? What should I do after that one night stand? What should I wear to work? How do I ask for a raise? How do I stop feeling so anxious? Why do I feel like I’m not good enough? How do I stop comparing myself to my friends? How do I feel more confident? How do I get bigger? Am I big enough? All of these questions were followed by feelings of doubt, insecurity, self-conciousness, and lack of confidence. Was anyone else feeling this way or was it just me? Did anyone have this figured out?
The answer to that question was the easiest to find out of all of them, and it was a big fat resounding no. Nobody had this figured out and because of that, and how insecure and weird that made you feel, nobody talks about it. So, I created a podcast called Guyset, which is the words “Guys” and “Mindset” combined, shoutout to my sister for the genius name, and set out to start answering those questions. The goal of the podcast is to make guys feel a little less alone in all of these experiences, to talk about the topics that aren’t talked about for guys. I am not an expert in any of this, and that’s the point: to experience the same things with you and alongside you, to be able to talk about it in real time. It’s definitely gotten me in shit a few more than a few times and I’m sure you can see why but I wouldn’t change a thing about it.
I’ll be there talking about what I learn and what I continue to learn, share advice and recommendations on everything I’m going through, and bring on guests to bring their perspectives and experiences. I believe in Guyset wholeheartedly because it’s exactly what I’ve been looking for. This didn’t exist so I created it, a place to find answers, advice, and perspectives on everything you’re wondering about. It’s far from the perfect place but I can guarantee it will always be honest and real. With that, I give you Guyset blog, a place you can come every day and hear a new piece of advice or thought on something you may be wondering about.
Why I started Guyset Podcast
I started a podcast called Guyset about a year and a half ago on all the things that should be talked about for guys in their 20s. I couldn’t find something like this that felt like it gave me tips and advice on the things I was actually wondering about, on the things I really cared about and worried about, so I created it. No website, podcast, magazine, or place was giving real authentic advice tailored to guys in my age group and younger.
No one was doing it so I thought, fuck it, why not me! I don’t have any of this figured out but I’m getting there and I’m trying to enjoy every moment during it. If you haven’t noticed, in every photo of me in this magazine, there is egg on my nose. I didn’t realize it until just now and if you haven’t realized it yet, now you’ll go back and see it. I debated telling you that cause now you’ll never not see it but that’s kind of the point of this whole thing. I’m incredibly imperfect, this whole thing is imperfect.
Putting all of this together and creating a podcast episode each week is so much more makeshift and figure it out as I go than you think, or maybe you already thought that. That’s kind of how I see my 20s, and this time in my life too, figuring it out as I go. There is no guidebook, no toolkit, no how-to, to all of this, so I decided to create my best version of it, what I’d want to see and hear advice on what to wear going out, ideas for what to wear on a date, tips for feeling less nervous and weird on a first date, conversation topics to talk about on a first date, how to feel more confident going into a new relationship, should I go in for the kiss, is it a bad thing if I didn’t, advice on searching for a new job when you don’t feel valued at yours, hearing from someone on how long their job search took, how many applications and interviews they had before they got anything, hear about the conversation they had with their boss telling them they were considering leaving, how they told their coworkers, tips for feeling overwhelmed, sharing in the feeling of not knowing what you want to do, not feeling good enough, comparing yourself to your friends, living on your own for the first time, the list goes on and on.
There was no one out there that all of these things were being talked about specifically for guys in their 20s, so I started it. I am no expert, never claimed to be, and never will claim to be, just another guy going through all of this at the same time as you. And I’m sharing my experiences as I go through it all to hopefully help another guy going through it all too. My goal here has been and always will be to make everyone else feel a little less weird and a little less alone knowing that someone else is feeling that same way to. Not an expert, but hopefully helpful. And I’m learning from my mistakes along the way, sharing that too of course.
We all make mistakes, do things we regret, say things we wish we could take back, and we think no one else has any of this too. We’ve all had a bad first date, or maybe you haven’t yet, we’ve all said a drunken and idiotic thing to a friend, slept through something important, had anxiety about the future, compared ourselves to our friends, thought we weren’t good enough, and been rejected.
We just don’t talk about it. About any of it. Guys are taught from a young age that sharing our emotions, our worries, our anxieties, our feelings, that these things are not manly, not cool. But the funny part about that is thinking those things doesn’t change any of them. Pushing those feelings down doesn’t make them go away. I’m creating Guyset as a place to talk about what should be talked about. And that means anything and everything you’re thinking about, wondering about, curious about, worried about, anxious about, excited about, scared about, whatever about. It’s all going to be in here, every week on Guyset Podcast, in the blog on Guyset.com, and of course here on Substack every day, and every month in Guyset Magazine.
I don’t think of myself as an expert on any of this, but I’m willing to share my experiences, what I’ve learned, what worked, what didn’t, on all of it. I’m going to bring on guests to share their experiences, perspectives, and advice and create a space where you can find advice on anything you’re wondering about. Guyset is a toolkit to your mindset, a place for me, the guests I bring on, and you guys, to share advice, tips, and recommendations for everything that should be talked about for guys in their 20s. I think it would make a lot of our lives easier if we just talked about our shit, so that’s what I’m here to do. Thanks for being here, for reading, for coming along. Welcome to the next generation of advice for guys.
